Tuesday, May 03, 2011
Emotions in Business and Life - Learning to Let Go
A friend of mine recently unsubscribed from my newsletter. I had a rather small, and indeed emotional reaction to this, and determined then and there to unsubscribe from hers. I could not find the opt out, so I emailed her a note to remove me, and highlighted my disappointment. I heard back later that day that she was planning to subscribe again, but had only been closing out that email address. I felt ridiculous, and wrote her a nice note back, apologizing. Everyone has reasons for doing things, and I shouldn't have jumped to the conclusion that she felt my newsletter wasn't for her. Why did I care so much, when I had, and have, over 100 happy subscribers? I should have let it go.
I met a woman about a year ago at an event for writers. She had been working on a novel, and confided in me casually over appetizers, that she had spent about 5 years writing nearly 200 pages, and had recently dumped them all. In the garbage. Pressed the delete button. She was so casual about it all, it was as if she'd been talking about something she'd spent an hour on, or a day. Just the thought of it made my stomach turn and my head ache. Five years. 200 pages. And there she was, munching happily on a deviled egg, making plans to start over soon. On the whole thing.
She had learned to let go. Good for her.
We visit the ducks in our local park nearly every day. Every spring, there's a cluster of baby ducklings that suddenly appears. They waddle in the water like tiny balls of fur with webbed feet, and their mother watches over them every moment, for weeks on end. They cross to the other side of the pond, and she's right there after them. They cluster under a rock, and she's standing guard. And then suddenly, once they're only a bit bigger then they were, they are on their own. There they are on one side of the water, with their mother on the other, with only the faintest suggestion of a connection between them. It's sad, but also somehow right. They all move on. It's part of nature.
What have you not let go of yet?